It has been said that one of the reasons why Dragoneer/Preyfar/Princess Piche's behavior is as it is: control freak, suspicious/paranoid and wanting to be adored , is because he suffered one or more traumatic events in conjuction with the pennsylvania furs, olive gardens have been mentioned.
I found a livejournal entry referring to what must have been one of the principle events since it provoked a meltdown from Preyfar and, apparantly, people coming to think that he was mentally ill. It is from November 2003 and refers to a furmeet at boarders bookshop which was near Preyfar's home and of which he knew nothing. He assumed that there was some active plot to keep him away. As it turned out he simply hadn't seen the LJ post announcing the event:
This is in response to this rather angry post from shutterwind aka Preyfar wherein he proceeded to rant about me.
Time to clear a few things up:
1) I was not running the event. film2edit was, and she was the one who was inviting people. If you are upset because you were not invited, you should bring it up with her. I had nothing to do with it. Furthermore, she posted about this in her LJ quite some time ago, and asked if people were interested in coming. It's not like this was some secret thing.
2) This was hardly a "PA furry" event. In fact, I was the only person from Pennsylvania who attended. film2edit lives in New York, and others who attended were either from New York or New Jersey.
3) Invoking the PA-Furry mailing list in your rant was uncalled for. That list had no relavence to the event.
I really don't know what your problem is, but I do know that ranting about it in your Live Journal is not going to solve anything. And you know what? By going and dragging my name through the mud like this, you've given me a really good reason to be pissed off at you. Can we say, "self-fulfilling prophesy"?
http://giza.livejournal.com/71673.htmlPreyfar's responses:
I was highly upset at the time, and given some very conflicting information. Still, my "rant" on the mailing list was most a sarcastic post than it was anything else, and not very spiteful. Yet, besides this, I also heard several people tell me there are people on the mailing who have been telling people that I'm next to clinically insane, which really upset me.
Coupled together, I got extremly anger, and hurt being all belief. =/ I wrote an upset post feeling like I had been ignored by the people I called friends, and that's still how I feel.
A lot of it was done in haste, and the fact I literally wanted to cry. I mean, imagine if half a dozen people you know and call friends are literally hanging out on your block, and they know how to get into contact with you, but don't. Then they message you the day after and tell you all about it. But then you ALSO find out one person in the group purposefully didn't want you there, and made sure not to tell anybody until after everyone left.
Yeah.
I didn't feel that hot either.
Well, you were at the bookstore I hangout, chilling at my building, and you didn't think to stop by and say hi? No. But, I was kindly told that you privately only mentioned I lived in the building you were all hanging out after you all had left, so you didn't have to deal with me.
So, was I upset? Yes. Yes I was. Wouldn't you be if half a dozen of your friend were hanging out in the very place you live and didn't even consider the courtesy of saying hi?
You know I lived there. I know you ignored me. I was kindly told.
Thank you.
As for her posting it to her journal, I didn't have her on my friends list. I wasn't to know about it until later. As for the PA Furry rant, it wasn't a rant, it was a pure sarcasm, not rantage. Besides, you responded back to me after I e-mail it to your admin address, and I didn't see any complaints about the post, so I carried it over to the regular list after you correctly pointed me to it.
Which, looking back, was greatly in error.
(this:
http://film2edit.livejournal.com/114505.html is the LJ post where the meet was publically announced).
I think there was also some bad-blood between Preyfar and Giza in the past, if this LJ entry is anything to go by. From Jan 2003:
A friend of mine once said that "assumptions are the mother of all f*ckups", or something similar, and he's right. Sometimes I just jump to conclusions and open my mouth without thinking.
I did it again yesterday. Someone made an offhand comment to an LJ entry, and I just went nuts. I made all kinds of assumptions that were flat out wrong, and I acted like a complete jerk. I said rude, hurtful things that I wish I could take back.
It doesn't matter "who started it". What matters is that I kept it going by adding fuel to the fire. I am as guilty as anyone for making the situation worse. It makes me feel like crap that I did some of these things.
Preyfar, Phil: I am sorry I caused you guys distress yesterday. You were right Preyfar, my decision not attend the event was mine and mine alone. It's stupid for me to be angry at you for that.
Tango: I'm sorry about the mess in your LJ.
I think that Preyfar may have had a romantic relationship with PhilDaFeline at one point, though I'm not sure. All of this would certainly go towards explaining why Preyfar still hates and rants about Giza today, as his rant on FD_2, quoted here:
https://forums.vivisector.org/index.php/topic,270.msg3190.html#msg3190 illustrates.
Given that Preyfar this very day made a journal on FA about Jibba's aids (see thread I linked to), which will embarass Kage (and therefore indirectly Anthrocon and Giza who is on the board of directors for it) and that he ranted about Giza on FD_2 yesterday shows that even now he is still driven by the hatreds and emotions of his pennsylvania fur traumas of 7 years ago.